I got a phone call from Marc today as I was heading home from work. I was surprised that he called since he never returned my call on Monday. I was on my way to get some dinner when he called. I was having trouble hearing him through my earpiece. I felt bad and told him that I would call him back when I got home. I got home and called him, but he didn't answer the phone. So, I left him a message. He called after a while and we had a very pleasant conversation. He asked a lot of questions about me. Where I lived, how many roommates I had, where I lived, where I grew up, about Stockton, what were plans going to school, what I liked to do in my free time, what I do for work, etc.
I asked him a few questions. He works in Menlo Park as a social worker. He lives in Hayward and owns his own house. He grew up in San Jose with his brother for a while before moving to Hayward. He also lived in San Leandro for a while. He got his bachelors and masters at San Jose state and is currently working on getting his licensing. He has a cat and a dog. Lives with a male roommate that is into rap. He listens to 99.7 and 102.9, likes R&B. He knows a bit about Filipinos. He works with Filipinos. He's tried Pancit, lumpia and adobo.
He asked me more about me and we talked about me coming out to some family members. My relationship with my father and relatives. He asked me if I met a lot of people from Match.com. We had a good time talking to each other. He hopes to come over one day and have me cook pancit or adobo for him. We talked about how I hear my news, how greg the gay sportscaster sounds completely different from how he looks. We talked for almost two hours. I really had a pleasant time talking to him. We even talked about our sleeping schedules. He sleeps between 9 and 11, but wants to get up at 6 instead of 7. He goes to work Monday through Fridays from 830 to 430 and works at the hospital on weekend for extra cash. We talked about how Single guys pay more taxes. He bought a house to counter that which began the discussion on ways to alleviate that. He's a really nice guy and I'm looking forward to getting to know him more. So before he got off the phone he asked me about when's a good time to call. I told him before I let him go have his dinner. He also was being considerate by letting me sleep during my bedtime.
Well, it's been a so-so day. I went on a ride-a-long with one of the drivers after he was in an accident last week. He's a really cool guy and I had a pretty good time conversing with him on the ride even though I was kind of car sick and a bit tired from the weekend. I got home really late... surprise, surprise. That's sarcasm since it's hard to portray that on blogs. Anywho, I haven't been feeling the best lately. I've been hanging in there as usual thinking about my life and the things that I want most. I had some dinner, which I shouldn't have eaten since I'll be heading to bed soon.
I was getting my cell phone out of my backpack when I noticed that I received a text message from Danny asking me how I was doing. He also asked me what "kept boy" meant. Honestly, I had no idea, so I Google'd the term and found that it means the younger counterpart to the "Sugar Daddy" relationship. So, I was about to text him back with the explanation when I accidentally pressed the button to call him. Oops. I listened for a moment and heard footsteps, then a voice had said "Hello." It was Danny. I said hi and I told him what had happened. He asked me if I had an answer to his question. I explained it to him and he asked me if it was a strong term. I wasn't quite sure what he was asking, but I told him that I had never heard of it before. I remembered when we first met he mentioned that he was looking for a sugar daddy and I told him that he must be really looking for one. He asked what I meant by it and I told him that I remembered when he mentioned it. He said that he was just kidding.
He told me that he just got out of class with his friend Randy in which I told him to say hi. I asked him how his grandmother was. He was surprised that I remembered him mentioning it. He said that his Aunt was also down, but now they were on their way to London. I told him how lucky they were to go and how I would love to go there. He said that he would too, but he didn't have the money. He mentioned how he wanted to see me and I told him that I wanted to see him as well. He said that he needed to get his homework done tonight, tomorrow night, and Friday night, so that he can come out and hang out with me on Saturday. It put a smile on my face. I told him that I would really like to see him and mentioned that I didn't do anything this past weekend. He said that he didn't do anything this past weekend either.
Randy had just dropped him off at his truck and he had to let me go. I told him that I was looking forward to seeing him soon. So, we got off the phone. I decided to send him a message and tell him that he made my day. He sent me a text message back saying the same thing. I'm really liking this guy.
Saturday I received several text messages from Danny about what we were doing tonight. To be honest, I really wasn't sure. The only reason that I was really going out was to see him again. I convinced Will to come with me later that night. I wasn't sure where to go and I remember that Danny was planning on going to Badlands that night. Will really wasn't in the mood to go there, but I really didn't care. We ended up going there anyway even though Will didn't want to. I really didn't know why until I got there that night.
He had wanted to get there before 10pm so that he wouldn't have to pay a cover charge which is a good reason to go early. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to make it because I took a while to get ready. Poor guy got there really early and needed me to get there soon due to all the Asians hitting on him. I eventually got there and it was packed. Not as packed as it was going to be later that evening, but packed enough to where there were people everywhere. We grabbed a couple drinks and he was instantly attracted to the bartender who was tall with tattoos.
Anyway, we stood there and waited for Danny to show up. The longer we waited, the more drinks we had. By the time Danny had arrived, I had drank about four glasses of something. He had sent me a text message informing me that "they" were here. I saw him outside the window and noticed that he had a different look to him. As he got closer to the door, my face developed a smile until the moment he introduced me to his boyfriend. I should've expected as much, but the romantic in me didn't want to believe. And there he was right in front of me. Danny introduced what's his name to me and I just smiled and said that it was nice to meet him.
The boyfriend went off to the bar as Danny conversed with me. I had introduced him to Will with whom was being such a friend to come with me. Danny and I spent most of the night talking about what was going on with him when I confronted him about his not so cheery disposition. To my dismay, he began to talk to me about his boyfriend and the fight that they had prior to coming to the bar. I didn't know what to do, but just try to be a friend. I had to try to be a friend to someone with whom I have only known for one night. Someone that I was attracted to and with whom I thought had similar feelings. I was confused and drunk at the same time. Not at all an uncommon combination.
I spent that time telling him to follow his heart. He asked me if he should break up with him, but I know that's not my right to tell him because that would've been for selfish reasons. The only thing I could do was suggest that he do what he felt is right. I explained that his happiness must come first and no one else, an advice that I should be following myself. Anyway, he continued to talk and say how funny things are even though things weren't funny at all. The only thing keeping me from being disappointed was my drunken stupor. I gave him the best advice that I could give. He mentioned "red flags" that happened with his last relationship and ended up taking the time to explain them before he understood.
Will was being a friend and gave us some time with each other. I didn't know it at the time, but he did. At least that's what he told me the next day and he's a good friend for that. After a while, the boyfriend prompted them to go home and Danny ended up leaving. He asked me if it would be okay for him to call me the next day and I told him that it would be fine. He left soonafter with his boyfriend and left me at the corner next to the window by myself. I think Will bought me another drink which pushed me beyond the brink of drunkenness.
We left the bar and went to eat pizza. Will says that pizza is so good after drinking. All I know was that I was really drunk. He bought me pizza and we sat down to eat. We met these two people next to us and ended up befriending them. The girl was named Jenn and the guy Nelson, both of which are Asian. They were cool and a lot of fun. Will told me that I was hilarious. I sat next to Nelson and he happened to be cute for an Asian guy. And I am definitely not into Asian men. In this case, he's a boy at the age of 21. It's all good though. They were both cool and during the short time we spent with them, we had a blast. What was even more cool is that Nelson offered to take us home. That was really nice of them. I'm drunk. I'm tired. I got a party to go to tomorrow. I'm going to bed.
This weekend has been one of the best times in my life, yet it was one of the most confusing. Friday, I met up with some of my co-workers at a bar in the Castro. My friend Cris was bringing his brother in law who was coming down to visit from Brazil. It turns out that he's gay and he introduce him to me so that I can show him around the Castro while he is in California. I was waiting for my friend Will, but something is going on with him. I've been noticing it for a while, but I didn't want to bother him about it since he also found out that his grandmother has Alzeimer's. Basically, he ended up not showing up or going home. I was worried about him to.
Anyway, I hung out with Cris and his brother in law Leo. Leo is kind of cute. I wasn't sure what to expect, but he's a nice guy. I really liked the atmosphere at Toad Hall. It was a more mature crowd and pretty mixed. There were some pretty cute guys there. There were barely any queens in there. There were several attractive guys there that I was checking out. There was one tall older guy that had checked me out. I smiled at him, but I didn't pursue it. There was another cute guy that walked around a lot. I thought he was cute, but I was too shy to say anything. I didn't know if he was interested or not, but I sensed he was a bit arrogant. Freakin' Cris bought me a shot of Tequila and I don't do those very well. I couldn't say no and I had to down the shot. Thank goodness it was earlier in the evening.
Cammy brought her friend Espy with her. I hadn't seen her in a while. It finally was getting more enjoyable when they showed up. They joined us on the dance floor and we danced for a little bit. They went and got drinks before we headed to the back where they wanted to smoke and this is where things got interesting. I was actually having a great time. Suddenly this very cute guy walked in and stood behind one of my friends. He was standing there with his friend and he immediately caught my attention. He had the most adorable smile and one of the nicest eyes I've ever seen. I saw him look at my direction a few times when he started to whisper something to Espy. Espy introduced us to him. His name was Danny. The moment he opened his mouth, the sexiest thing just spoke with an accent and I almost melted. Here I was talking to this attractively cute guy with an accent that is possibly attracted to me.
He initiated a lot of the conversations. He was sweet and spent most of the time conversing with me. He talked to the others every once in a while since we were in a group, but there were times when it was just him and I. I complimented him on his eyes and his appearance for which he was thankful for. Through our conversations I found that he was 23 years old. He comes from Union City and his parents are from Spain. He had one of the greatest smiles I've ever seen. At one point, some guy came and started to talk to him. It turned out to be someone he knew, so I went back to talk to the others. After a while, he returned my circle of friends and asked to talk to me personally on the other side of the yard.
So, I followed him and he apologized to me about the guy who had come up to talk to him. He told me that he was supposedly a friend, but that he was a drama queen. Those weren't the exact words, but that's pretty much what he was trying to say. I told him that it was fine. I really didn't mind. I thought that it was very thoughtful for him to say so even though it wasn't necessary. We went back to my friends and continued to converse with them. Leo and Cammy went and got some shots while we talked about his going to school in Hayward and living in the ghetto. He had this cute smile that just was adorable. Cammy and Leo came back bringing back several shots of Petron. They even brought some for Danny and his friend Randy. It was some potent stuff. Man, I can't stand tequila.
Anyway, Cammy took some pictures of us with her camera. He had his arm around me and I had my arm around him. Cammy several pictures of him and I, but there was no flash. After a while, Danny asked me for my phone number. They told me to get his phone number prior, but I didn't think I should at that point. He ended up asking first. He got my number, put it on his cell phone and called it. So, I saved his number on my phone. I asked him if I can get a picture of him on my phone just so that I would know who it was. So, he let me. He didn't seem to like the picture, but he didn't mind. I started feel special. Finally someone is interested in me and in pursuit of me. Yeah, he's a little young for me, but at this point in my life, I can't be picky. Besides, if nothing comes of it, at least I would gain a friend which is something I need more of around here.
They were closing the back yard and moved us to the dance floor. We ended up dancing until the close of the bar. Leo was very disappointed that the bar was closing so early. They kept trying to get us to leave. Initially, he shook my hand before we parted. He gave everyone else a hug, so I said goodbye again and gave him a hug goodbye before we left. Sometime during the evening, I had overheard that he may have a boyfriend. Even though I had a really nice time with him, I was confused at why he would be asking for my number if he has a boyfriend. I don't know what's going on, but I'm just going to be happy about how the night went. And to think, I wasn't planning on going out that night. I'm glad that I did.
